"Emotion can be the enemy. If you give in to your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions because the body always follows the mind." -Bruce Lee
Emotions are arguably the most powerful force governing our behavior. Emotions are the guardians of your well-being. They are your friends and their primary objective is to ensure survival.
Do you remember the old adage, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" That couldn't ring more true than when it comes to emotions.
I'm sure you already know that, when left untamed, your basic emotions (anger, joy, disgust, surprise, distress, and fear) would cause you to fight first and ask questions later. Or run first and ask questions later. This is phenomenon known as the Flight or Fight Response.
Flight or Fight Response applies to physical and psychological situations. Emotions run amok will have you shouting or crying. They will have you making incorrect assumptions and not asking enough questions. Believe it or not, all of this is done in the name of survival.
In the heat of the moment, be it physical or psychological, your body initially responds to attacks (i.e. insults) a similar same manner. Think about that.
If emotions are supposed to be our friends, then why do they frequently leave us in a barrel of trouble? The answer is simple.
We are designed for survival, not diplomacy.
For countless generations, the emotional brain, also known as the limbic system, has been doing what it does best: keeping us out of harms way. Then along comes the neocortex, the logical brain, to make things much complex.
Today, people know that if they don't want to deal with the consequences of physically attacking another person, an insult will often do the trick. Although it's not a physical attack, the other person's emotional brain still recognizes the bad intentions and Flight or Fight Response kicks in.
If you aren't careful, in 3-5 seconds for the chemicals that produce emotions flood your system creating what is often referred to as an emotional hijacking. Your emotions could become your enemies.
In life and death situations that call for immediate action an emotional hijacking might save your life. (Think about jumping out of the way of a moving car.)
But at the office an emotional hijacking might cost you your job. In a negotiation it might cost you the deal. In an argument it might cost you a relationship.
Therefore the age-old advice about counting to ten before you respond has an equal amount of science and common sense behind it. It gives you a chance to use your logical brain.
So, if you ever feel a wave of emotions flooding your system, pause and do your best access your neocortex. Leading expert on developing Emotional Intelligence--Joshua Freeman, calls it the "six second pause."
For most people, it's better to take the four additional seconds just to be sure. Impulsive behavior is nothing to play with. It can be costly.
When I was growing up my mom was fond of saying, "Al, don't let your friends get you in trouble."
Mom, you never told me that you were talking about my emotions.
Emotions are arguably the most powerful force governing our behavior. Emotions are the guardians of your well-being. They are your friends and their primary objective is to ensure survival.
Do you remember the old adage, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" That couldn't ring more true than when it comes to emotions.
I'm sure you already know that, when left untamed, your basic emotions (anger, joy, disgust, surprise, distress, and fear) would cause you to fight first and ask questions later. Or run first and ask questions later. This is phenomenon known as the Flight or Fight Response.
Flight or Fight Response applies to physical and psychological situations. Emotions run amok will have you shouting or crying. They will have you making incorrect assumptions and not asking enough questions. Believe it or not, all of this is done in the name of survival.
In the heat of the moment, be it physical or psychological, your body initially responds to attacks (i.e. insults) a similar same manner. Think about that.
If emotions are supposed to be our friends, then why do they frequently leave us in a barrel of trouble? The answer is simple.
We are designed for survival, not diplomacy.
For countless generations, the emotional brain, also known as the limbic system, has been doing what it does best: keeping us out of harms way. Then along comes the neocortex, the logical brain, to make things much complex.
Today, people know that if they don't want to deal with the consequences of physically attacking another person, an insult will often do the trick. Although it's not a physical attack, the other person's emotional brain still recognizes the bad intentions and Flight or Fight Response kicks in.
If you aren't careful, in 3-5 seconds for the chemicals that produce emotions flood your system creating what is often referred to as an emotional hijacking. Your emotions could become your enemies.
In life and death situations that call for immediate action an emotional hijacking might save your life. (Think about jumping out of the way of a moving car.)
But at the office an emotional hijacking might cost you your job. In a negotiation it might cost you the deal. In an argument it might cost you a relationship.
Therefore the age-old advice about counting to ten before you respond has an equal amount of science and common sense behind it. It gives you a chance to use your logical brain.
So, if you ever feel a wave of emotions flooding your system, pause and do your best access your neocortex. Leading expert on developing Emotional Intelligence--Joshua Freeman, calls it the "six second pause."
For most people, it's better to take the four additional seconds just to be sure. Impulsive behavior is nothing to play with. It can be costly.
When I was growing up my mom was fond of saying, "Al, don't let your friends get you in trouble."
Mom, you never told me that you were talking about my emotions.
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